Switching as an equal model

With the alternating model, your children live alternately with both parents after a separation or divorce. In addition to custody, the parents also share the day-to-day care. The children generally spend roughly the same amount of time with each parent and rotate regularly between the two households. But even if you take care of the children alternately in a ratio of 30% to 70%, this is known as the alternating model. In the alternating model, there are no longer single parents in the traditional sense.

Advantages and disadvantages

One advantage of the alternating model is that the children can build and maintain a stable and close relationship with both parents. The model also promotes equal parenting, in which both parents take on an important role in the care and upbringing of the children. This makes it almost impossible for children to become estranged from one parent. Sharing responsibility between the parents also leads to a fairer distribution of tasks. This also gives you time to pursue your career and relax in your free time.

One disadvantage of the alternating model is that the children move between the two households. Good communication, organization and coordination by the parents is important for this to run smoothly. Plan carefully and stick to all agreements made together. This gives the children a sense of security and does not place any additional stress on them. It is an advantage if the parents stay in the same place of residence, preferably in the same neighborhood. This makes it easier for the child to move from one home to another without having to make a long journey. They can also maintain their own social contacts from both parents' homes. It is also important that you coordinate well with the other parent. According to the latest scientific findings, children develop in the alternating model in the same way as in a family where both parents are together.

Do the advantages outweigh the disadvantages for you and is the alternating model an option for you?