Through the menopause as a couple

The menopause can pose a challenge to a long-term relationship as it is accompanied by a number of physical and emotional changes in the individuals affected. As you have already read in the three previous parts, it is a natural biological process that usually occurs between the ages of 45 and 55 and is accompanied by a gradual decline in hormone production and a decrease in muscle mass.

The hormonal changes during the menopause can lead to physical symptoms such as hot flushes, night sweats, sleep disorders, vaginal dryness and fatigue, particularly in women. These symptoms can make a woman feel unwell and possibly less interested in sexual activity. This can lead to tension and dissatisfaction in the relationship, especially if the partner has difficulty understanding or responding appropriately to these changes.

In addition, the hormonal changes can also affect mood. These emotional challenges can affect the interaction in a long-term relationship, as they can lead to conflict, misunderstandings or emotional distance.

Here are five tips that can support your relationship during the menopause:
- Open communication: It is important that both partners talk openly about their feelings, needs and challenges. Share your experiences, listen to each other and show understanding for each other. Open communication creates space for mutual support and can help to avoid misunderstandings.
- Educate yourself together: Learn together about the menopause and its effects. Find out about the physical and emotional changes that the other person may be experiencing. This will enable you to develop a better understanding and respond appropriately.
- Show empathy: The menopause can be a challenging time. Try to show empathy and put yourself in the other person's shoes. Show understanding for physical symptoms, mood swings and needs. Provide support wherever possible and be patient.
- Find solutions together: Work together to find ways to cope with the changes. Be open to compromise and find ways to adapt to the new needs. For example, you can explore alternative forms of intimacy together if sexual activity is challenging due to physical symptoms.
- Take care of yourself: Don't forget that you also need support and self-care as a partner. Take time for yourself to meet your own needs and look after your own health. By taking good care of yourself, you can also take better care of your relationship.

Remember that every relationship is unique and therefore has its own dynamic. You are a professional in 'yourself' and know best what is good for you. Nevertheless, it can be useful to seek professional support from a couples therapy counselor during this time of upheaval. An external person has a broader perspective and can provide new input.

We wish you exciting discussions with yourself, your partner and your relationship.