When children are afraid

Children are afraid of many things. Even in the first year of life, children are afraid of loud noises, the change of light and shadow or separation from their parents. Later on, they are afraid of thunderstorms, the dark, dogs or monsters at night. Or they are afraid of school or of failing an exam .

Fears are usually triggered by developmental spurts. Fears are not negative, but are essential for human survival. They warn us of threats, increase our alertness and boost our body's performance.

When babies are afraid, they cry. Toddlers hide behind their parents and want to be picked up. Some children have an accelerated heartbeat or tense muscles. Older children no longer show their fears so clearly. They may have tummy aches or headaches, be unable to sleep at night or no longer want to go to school.

It is important that you show understanding for your child's fears. They are experiencing many things for the first time. Do not push them to do things they are not yet ready for. Give your child time to make friends with unfamiliar situations and approach unfamiliar terrain at their own pace. Children's books that deal with various topics that can trigger anxiety in children often help.

Tell your child about the fears you had as a child. Some children find it helpful to hear that their parents were once children too and, for example, did not dare to go to sleep alone in the dark.

Do not ignore your child's fears, otherwise the situation will get worse as your child will not be able to understand and overcome the fear on their own.

If fears overshadow everyday life and the child is so dominated by their fears that their development is impaired, this is referred to as an anxiety disorder. In this case, you should seek advice from a specialist.

Good luck in accompanying your children!