Arguing is part of every relationship. But how can you have a good argument?
There are no relationships that are only harmonious. Arguing is part of it and is usually not a bad thing. What is not ideal is when arguments are a constant companion and escalate again and again. Or when couples reproach and insult each other without end. If an argument threatens to escalate, you should break it off in good time. Pay attention to the following points:
Agree with your partner that you will not hurl insults or sweeping accusations at each other during an argument.
Agree on a code word. And break off the conversation when one of the partners says stop. A time-out can be useful for both parties.
Address problems and conflicts in a quiet moment. Early in the morning before your first coffee or late in the evening when you are tired is not a good time. And try to calm down in good time if you are too agitated. A lot of exercise or listening to music is suitable for this.
Try to find out why they are arguing. Is it really about the socks lying in the corner or the dishwasher that hasn't been emptied? Or is there another thought behind the dissatisfaction? Do you feel like you are not being taken seriously or left alone? Get to the bottom of things for yourself and your partner.
Avoid endless discussions. After 20 minutes of arguing, a problem should be solved. Otherwise, take a break.
Try to see your partner as an ally and not as an enemy who wants to do you harm. Conflicts can be resolved much more quickly and lovingly this way. Holding hands on a walk is not a good way to argue and it makes discussions much more relaxed.
Lots of energy in solving your problems!
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